Lately I hear a lot of people talk about how they are trying to eat healthfully, trying to have better exercise habits. They report that they are doing pretty well.
And then tell me about all the failures they are having. They explain about high blood pressure and cholesterol; extra weight; too much stress.
What I hear is a big disconnect between reality and what these folks tell themselves. They cannot hold up a mirror and see what I see. They see themselves trying but they don’t have any way to measure success. Some don’t even realize that this is necessary!
Trying leaves an escape route. It lets you feel okay regardless of what gets done or not. Would be satisfied if your boss tried to pay you? Or your dentist tried to pull that tooth? No, you want it done!
What every wildly successful person has is:
- clear vision
- a system for continual learning
- clear values
- measurable goals
- milestone markers
- a timetable
They know their success is determined by:
- what they believe
- what they think
- where they focus intention
- where they focus attention
- what actions they take
Most folks rely on wishing, hoping, intending and trying. They don’t make decisions. They don’t take appropriate action. So for the next week, take ownership of every decision. How you have been living so far has gotten you where you are. If you want to see changes, what changes do you need to make? Write them down. Have a clear, measurable picture of success. Write down the numbers which are important. If certain qualities are important, find a way to quantify them. Write down all your successes. Success breeds success. Writing it down will keep you focused on what you’ve done right and will spur you to do more right.