Like every mother, I love my children so much that it can hurt sometimes. From the moment I learned they existed, to holding them to the first time, to seeing them learn to walk and talk and go off to school. However, like every mother, I also understand the importance of self-care and taking time to give relationships the attention they deserve. All of this is much easier said than done, of course.
One of the relationships that can easily seem to go to the backburner is the one we have with our significant other. That person we lean on for strength, the one we rely on to keep our homes in order and raise intelligent and considerate children. Which makes it pretty rough when we realize how long ago a date night was. Ouch.
We NEED date nights, moms! We don’t have to go and get dressed up and go out to the fanciest restaurant in town, we simply need to make the time to reconnect in some way with the person we love! Sometimes, all you need is a push and some simple ideas to get you started!
Find a night and black it out
I’m serious with this one – you need to decide on a day and black it out. Do not try to reschedule, you are simply making excuses if there isn’t a life and death matter that needs attention. Decide if you want to do something during the day or if nighttime suits you better, and make a note of that. Pick a date and stick to it.
Have the children taken care of
This one can be hard for so many of us moms and I get it! Finding a sitter for one child is usually a lot easier than trying to find one who will watch three, four, or more! If open to it, you could see about splitting children up between a couple of sitters, or letting someone stay at a friend’s house. If you absolutely can’t find a way to have a sitter in your home, or the kids stay at a grandparents or elsewhere, don’t let that stop this date! Plan to have your date once the kids are asleep! It’s the easiest way to make this work, and even if you’ve already had dinner, you can certainly indulge in dessert!
Plan something fun and sweet
Our recent date night involved cheesecake and I literally think if that’s all we had planned, it still would have been a homerun. Instead of trying to go out and deal with dinner crowds, you can now bring the best thing ever to your home – The Cheesecake Factory cheesecake. You have to make it earlier in the day, so it has time to chill, but it’s ready just in time for your date and comes together so easily! There’s Classic, Strawberry and Salted Caramel available in stores for you to bring home. I love this idea because once the kids are in bed, you can each enjoy a slice while you watch a favorite movie or show together, while you play a board game, or just simply talk – something that seems so foreign!
Plan another one
Once you had a date night after a long period of going without that time alone, you will absolutely want another one. Go ahead and grab the calendar and see if there is a movie coming out you want to see, or a new restaurant opening, or any kind of event you can attend without the kids. If you don’t want to go out, plan another night in! See if you can make dinner together and try a different The Cheesecake Factory At Home mix, and get back to reconnecting.